FOREWORD BY MARK DEVER: John Flavel
(1627-91) was a minister of the gospel
in the south of England – in Salisbury
first, and then mainly in Dartmouth.
Living through tumultuous times in
England, Flavel faced even more
tumultuous times in his own life. Like
his Master, he lived a life acquainted
with grief. He was one of the
thousands of ministers of the Church of
England who resigned their living in
the Great Ejection of 1662. His
parents both died of the plague in 1665
under tragic circumstances. (They were
imprisoned by enemies at the infamously
infected Newgate Prison, presumable in
order to cause their deaths.) Flavel
saw the death of his child, and three
wives. After only two years of
marriage, his first wife, Joanna, died
in childbirth, along with their first
child. He remarried, and also grieved
the loss of Elizabeth, his second
wife. Having remarried again – to
Agnes – he also lost her. He was
survived by his fourth wife, Dorothy.
In 1674, two years after his second
wife had died, John Flavel published A
Token for Mourners, based upon advice
he gave to a woman who had lost her
only child. In this work, Flavel
meditates on the words of Luke
7:13, ‘And when the Lord saw her, he
had compassion on her, and said unto
her, Weep not.’ From this verse Flavel
helps the reader to think about
sorrowing that it ‘moderate’
and ‘immoderate’. He spells out what
is permitted and appropriate for a
Christian, and what is not. He even
has a section of advice to non-
Christians who are mourning a loss.
Most of the work, however, offers
comfort to ‘godly mourners’. This book
is full of Scripture, counsel, warning,
and wisdom gained from prayerful
reflection on the personal experience
of affliction in loss and grief.
For the next 150 years Flavel’s Token
was printed and re-printed in England
and America. The times demanded that
the heart-breaking experience of the
loss of children be faced by most
parents. And generations of Christian
parents found comfort through this
little book.
I first became acquainted with this
work when a couple in our congregation
was called to go through the dark
valley of losing their first child.
Flavel’s Token helped them to trust God
for good through the affliction and
grief. It helped them to fix their
eyes on Jesus, the Author and perfecter
of their faith when they needed such
help most.
I had owned this work for decades – but
it was hidden at the back of volume
five of the collected Works of Flavel.
I had read some of his more theological
works, and the ‘Puritan Paperback’
edition of Flavel’s The Mystery of
Providence – one of my favorite Puritan
works. Now republished as Facing
Grief: Counsel for Mourners, this new
edition makes Flavel’s Token for
Mourners more accessible. By
publishing it separately, and in a
lightly-edited form, the Banner of
Truth Trust has allowed the work once
again to take the form in which it knew
such popularity among grieving
Christians for 150 years – a small
book, published on its own – the right
size for carrying, and reading alone,
slowly, and with meditation,
reflection, and prayer. May reading
these pages prayerfully remind you,
believer, of our certain hope in
Christ. May you be protected from
danger as you are led to Christ during
your time of grief. May you embrace
the promises that we have in Christ,
and find your heart pastored by this
faithful minister of God’s Word. MARK
DEVER Washington, D.C. December 2009